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1. I just saw the one day commercial with Joe Jonas and ew.
2. Guys are so complicated...the guys that say they're your friends are only your friends when they need you for something, a tutor, a sex buddy, an ear to listen when they're having problems with their cheating or canniving girlfriends. And when they realize that you can offer them so much more, they run from you, scared of what could possibly be something great.
Sadly, we end up doing the same thing in return. We become so involved in what we want, and what we feel we deserve, that we fail to realize that there are people out there who do appreciate us. But we don't want them, we're set in stone in desiring the unattainable, the whole thing comes full circle, and we're trapped in a whirlwind of emotion.
This is why I stay stuck in a world of fantasy. I dream up what I want, I create my own lovestory, in which I get the man of my dreams, and we have a love so untouchable, in which everything we do is in perfect harmony with each other. But then, when I sleep, my "visions" take on a mind of their own. They become molded into what feels like reality, and I see things I don't see in my waking life. I see glimpses of what could be my future, what my life could be like, or what it would be like if I were someone else, did something else, or lived somewhere else.
I guess I can say my life is a little on the side of unusual...but it takes me to unexpected places, and that, I love.

Some Girls Like it Too

Awesome title, but yet I'm talking about porn.  Yes, I'm serious, some girls like it too.  Think about it, if we didn't, you wouldn't have it, because there would be no ladies in the industry.  However, since there are plenty of women in the industry of porn, I think it's safe to say, we like it too.
It doesn't stop there.  We like to watch just like the next guy that walks into the room.  But just like the situation with masturbation, we prefer to have the real thing.  It's kind of like the thing we go to for the little bit of moisture it would take to get a toy in there.  And if at any point this gets too graphic for some of you please feel free to stop reading.  If you're getting a little excited, do yourself a favor, go to your favorite site, pick your favorite clip and enjoy.

So why is porn so appealing?  Well, like any other thing in life, we turn to videos and movies for educational purposes.  Porn falls in that same boat.  I mean really, when we want to learn something new sexually, we can do one of two things, try it out the next time you have an encounter, or watch a porno.  Either way, we sit there to educate ourelves on a "new trick".  And guys, don't you dare sit there and act like you never asked your girl to be like that chick you saw in that video, or to dress like her.

And ladies, when a guy asks you to be that girl, ask him to be that guy.  Tell him the things you want him to do, give him the positions you want to try, because it shouldn't be up to only him to "spice up your life", it's about compromise.  Oh and there's absolutely nothing wrong with a guy watching girl on girl action, they get excited about more than one set of titties, but guys, don't be so upset if a chick likes to watch guy on guy action...some girls like to see different sized weenies. 

Is it weird that I'm writing about this topic? Not at all.  It is super easy to write about any topic nowadays with the amount of information that the web can give us.  And if you're a smart cookie, you can use that info to come up with your own opinions, inferences, and write a pretty decent entry about it.  But hey, again, why not sit back, relax, and just watch it any way you can get it :)

Untitled Blog of Love

 

I sit here listening to my iPod because I can't sleep (and apparently I can't type either). I've got a few things on my mind tonight and one of them is one of the members of phunk phenomenon on ABDC bcz he's hot despite the fact that he's not my type, yet somehow I feel like I could fall for a dude that looks like he does. Besides that, I'm also thinking about how I want more from my life. I need a better job already and I keep applying to what feels like faraway dreams and improbabilities.

I'm that girl who's loved a great deal by her friends, who has to be told constantly that she is indeed a great girl, otherwise, she'll never believe it.  Nor does she believe that she's beautiful, or that she's amazing, and all those great things that only her friends and family can seem to atest to.  Despite my best efforts, and despite not making one and trying to let love find me rather than me trying to find love, I have spent and experienced years of finding nothing worthwile, and finding everything that I didn't need.

I want to feel a love like no other, one that caters to the hopeless romantic in me, one that generates a connection on a chemical level to where our brain waves and our souls vibe together in ways never imagined. The thing about me, is that I will admit I can love easily, and sometimes I do.  But I know that the love, the trust, and the effort I put into these men, only result in friendships, which I am more than satisfied with, because I know these are people I can seek comfort in, and some sort of reassurance, or at least honest feedback. 


ONE DAY...(haha I had to, being that it's part of the title of my page), I will find perfection, because perfection is what I seek.  And I don't mean perfection in personality, or physical appearance, but I mean perfection in our compatibility.  Our personalities will complement each other, and we'd fit like two pieces of a puzzle.  It's a dream, yes, it's a wish that I've made upon hundreds of stars, and countless times on 11:11.  As many times as I'd like to have given up, I can never seem to lose hope, because there's just a part of me that won't let it die. That hopeless romantic in me that screams to be in front of the tv, and as the rain falls outside my window a tear rolls down my cheek as I think of all my favorite TV couples, wanting and yearning for that which I have yet to experience. With that said, I can only hope to find those things, so that I may feel some type of fulfillment rather than a massive void.

There's No Love Like Our Love

HAHAHA...if you thought this was a sappy love post about me and someone else, yeahhh ok.

The love I'm referring to is my love for music, and my secret love for dance (which I regret not taking up in my lifetime).

The above song, gets me so pumped :) It's Don Omar's remake of the Lambada song, his being called "Taboo".  If you watch the original Lambada video, the dancing, while basic rhythmic dancing, is just so seductive. Speaking of seductive, that's exactly what Don Omar is.

To the point of this blog, we are in a wave of the new dance and music craze.  Covering a song is becoming the norm with shows like Glee producing chart-topping renditions of old and new favorites, not to mention American Idol, in which contestants perform songs as well, and those also become iTunes chart toppers.

And the dancing! With shows like So You Think You Can Dance, Dancing with the Stars and America's Best Dance Crew, who wouldn't want to get up and take a class or two?  I mean DWTS is in its 12th season, SYTYCD is in I believe its 8th and ABDC is in its 6th.  Not to mention today's music videos producing "dance crazes" like 2 stepping, the dougie, the cat daddy (which because of ICONic Boys is my favorite), jerking, etc.  To those who could do it all, I'm so jealous, but I have to say, it just makes me love it more.  But my favorite has to be the DWTS routine of Duet of a Lifetime.  By far the cutest, sweetest thing I've seen. 

If you get bored and love music and dance as I do, and you haven't checked out all I've talked about...google it :) and ENJOY



Here Comes the Bride...Hm, hm, hm-hmmmm

MARRIAGE!!!!
It's on our minds.  With the royal wedding being all over the tabloids, and all over television and lifetime for that matter, who wouldn't want to start or continue dreaming of their own wedding?
I dream of an outside wedding, with one of those archy thingies (I always forget what they're called) decorated with gerbera daisies and alstromerias. White chairs arranged in rows with ribbons possibly in canary yellow, or maybe a salmon type of color.  The flowers made to match the color theme.  The roll out "carpet" to be a soft pink, red is too bold and too vibrant.  The place I want, is actually a park in my town, and there's this one spot where it's by this water area, where it flows out from a beautiful structure.  I want a long dress, but not one with a long train, that's too much for me, just one that flows a little outward, so I'm not tripping over it either.  Depending on how long my hair is, if it's short, I'd want a cute frill of curls, but if it's longer, still curls, but no up-do, all lengthy and flowing. 
As for the preparation stuff, I'll be doing it on my own.  The color theme may change in the future, as not everyone stays with the same favorite color forever, but regardless of the color schemes, I will definitely be designing my own invitations, and utilizing methods I see fit, as I am a bargain shopper.

I haven't thought much more into it, as I've yet to find that right guy...as to what I look for in him, well we'll just save that for another post :) 

Boys and Toys...or Boys as Toys?

Question:  Would you rather use Boys and Toys? Or rather use a boy as your toy?

Before I begin, here's some basic stats for you:

44% of women between the ages of 18 and 60 have used a sex toy, 20% of men report using a vibrator.
1 in 5 woman masturbate at least once a week...Of those women, 60% report using a sex toy in their "play".
78% of women who report using a sex toy, stated they were in arelationship, 23% of adults use sex toys in their relationship.

So let's begin our discussion. So 56 percent of women have not used a sex toy, and why is that?  Well talking amongst a few friends, I have found that those women say "Why use a toy, when I can just get the real thing?"  Fascinating fact is, apparently women who have used a sex toy are not only more self confident, but they also have more orgasms when they do have sexual relations with their partner. 

So back to the boys as toys thing.  Is there such a thing as using a boy to experiment with your own body? To allow someone to touch along every curve, every nook, and to find the spots that release the most pleasure, to give them permission to navigate their way along the very thing that is our temple, to find what makes our toes curl, our muscles tighten, and spasm.  One would think that it takes just as much confidence to be able to trust a man with our bodies, a man who has never experienced our body before, even if he experienced others, as every woman is different, and sensitive to different things, in different areas.  It would take a great deal of trust, and a great deal of confidence to allow such a thing to happen, even if we don't get the full gratification out of it.  But if we don't get full gratification, who is at fault, you or him?  Is it his because he doesn't know the ways, or you for not telling him?  Maybe you weren't in the mood, maybe he wasn't.  Maybe he got lost, but half the fun should be in the discovery process anyway! Women shouldn't have to hand men a map to our bodies, with the prime location for pleasure, where's the fun in it? Then the question becomes, if we don't get that full pleasurable release, do we lose confidence in ourselves, and our sexual abilities, forcing us to rely on toys rather than allowing ourselves to experience that which a man has to offer?

So, tell me what you think...I'm curious

TV Romances

 

So these two above are my absolute favorite TV couple ever.  Why? Mostly because of Katie Andrews played by Autumn Reeser.  Katie is a 28 year old assistant lab tech who is by far the cutest thing imaginable.  She's quirky, and she's a complete comic book geek, and the characters she fancies, are the same characters that I'd be attracted to.  So when she finds Joshua, played by Josh Stewart (who I will say, is dreamy in a mysterious sort of way), their romance is one that I completely envy, but you'd have to watch the show to understand.  Joshua is Katie's comic book superhero, and their love, while unique, is one that I understand, and one that I could only hope to have.



Now these two:  Penelope Garcia and Derek Morgan...they have an undeniable friendship in which Morgan would do everything in his power to protect Garcia from any harm, and Garcia worries every moment that Morgan faces danger, that he won't return from the latest case.  She is the database tech for the FBI, their resource to the information superhighway, and the one Morgan calls on for information on any suspect or victim.  What I love about them?  Her always clever, sometimes graphic but also playful nicknames for him. And yet, these two are not a couple...but man with their chemistry, they should be...

When is it Too Young?

It kind of concerns me that MTV is approaching the third season of 16 and pregnant.  We've also hit two seasons of Teen Mom.  Bring us another 4 memorable girls from the first and we'll have season 3 of the second show.  But looking at all of this, it really bears the question of "when are they just too young?"

Now I spent all day yesterday watching Juno, which is oddly such a cute movie, considering the oh so controversial topic of being pregnant at such a young age. Juno handles it with a healthy dose of humor and sarcasm, despite the abnormal situation that becomes of her life, in getting involved with a couple who has arranged for a closed adoption at the end of it all. 

How young is too young?  Sexual activity is starting younger and younger in age.  I'm hearing of kids as early as 12 and 13 now having sex, you see it in Maury episodes of all these teenagers who have sex, or want to have sex and want to have babies, but they don't understand all the complications that arise from engaging in it, emotionally and physically.  For women especially, it messes with your hormones, not to mention your cycle.  And this is all stuff you can learn from a 7th grade health class.  There's even a Lifetime movie "She's Too Young" about a girl who gave in to having sex with this guy she had a crush on, and also was pretty much incredibly pressured by her friends, only to end up with an STD and the blame for it, by these so-called friends. 

I've heard girls talking amongst themselves about their boyfriends or ex-boyfriends cheating on them while they were still "talking" or still dating, girls talking of messing with guys who messed with more than one girl at the same time, and getting into messes they don't want to be a part of.  Girls who get emotionally involved, end up fighting this other chick for messing with her man, for trying to get with her ex, etc.

 But here's my problem with this all, cheating is something that has destroyed the lives of married couples, and adult couples, leaving the women emotionally distraught for putting their trust into men who eventually broke their hearts.  It's just sad to know that something that hurts us older women so much is something that young teenagers take with a grain of salt and keep on moving.  And some of you may disagree, but when you hear what I hear, you'd see it that way too.  I'm just saying, it's all unfortunate.  Where do we draw the line, when do we decide that it's time to pump the break on sexual activity and try to convince the future of the world that it's worth waiting for, it's worth delaying. And when as I said before, is it appropriate to say, "You're just too young".

Movies!!!

Ok Guys, Here's My Movie List...Anyone Care to Join?
(and these are in NO particular order)

1. Something Borrowed
2. Hop
3. Thor
4. Captain America: The First Avenger (Chris Evans, Love of my LIFE)

There are a lot more, but my memory is currently losing a battle to the television, as I sit here watching Juno...

I love movies <3

Aurora Borealis...I want to witness this one day

Money Can Buy Love?!

Apparently, one of the authors of Yahoo's Shine! Love & Sex section came upon a new site...a "dating" site called What's Your Price.  It's a site in which guys are named The Generous, while woman are categorized as The Attractive.  The Attractive name their price of how much money is acceptable for a man to "bid" in order to take them out on a first date.  The men, in turn, offer dollar amounts that they would pay. 

Ok, it was kind of cute back in the day when people use to bid on dates for non-profit orgs and major fundraisers for the higher society upper-class.  But even then, it put people in an ego-boosting, and sometimes ego-shattering spotlight.  I mean, when you're standing on a stage, and the announcer looks at you and goes, we'll start the bidding at 50$, you wonder wow...and my mom used to say that love was priceless!  Well guess again Princess, we valued you at 50$.  In 2011, that's a date for two at Applebees, with a round of drinks and dessert.  What a keeper he'll turn out to be!

And I'm not knockin' on the Applebee's dude, because honestly, I'm low-maintenance, I don't need a big spender.  But make yourself look good, and offer up a little more than just a date at a "Grill and Bar".  Let me know that if you were to take me out to dinner, you'd offer up an Italian restaurant before I say, "Aw that's sweet, but don't go crazy hun"

Sorry, let's land the plane here.  The point of this whole thing is simple.  What are we coming to if we now have to bid on an attractive woman via website just to get a first date?  It's bad enough that people are apprehensive about using sites like Match and Chemistry.  I mean hey, I tried my own hand at the free OkCupid, but I deactivated it when I realized, I was leaving the most important part of my life to a website! 

I'm a little old school, I still believe that love is more valuable than looking at a man's profile image and sending a wink, or a hi via e-mail or message.  I want to meet you face to face, see your body type, hear your laughter, hold a conversation with you and look at your facial expressions as you tell me embarrassing stories and what-not.  To think, that we now gain to profit off of attempts at finding it?  Yeah, I'm kind of just as disgusted as the author.

Are We Too Good For Romance?

I can tell you that at the moment I am writing this, I am an emotional, sappy, lovey-dovey mess.  This is due to several reasons, first, is that I'm days away from the dreadful opening of the nether-region flood gates.  Second, I've been watching Coming Home on Lifetime for the past 35 minutes, and lastly, because I just finished reading an article on how the Boomer generation, or for most people my age, our grandparents, were the last to embrace romanticism.

The article continues to say that the generation of kids to follow, were the 60's and 70's sexual revolution kids, where exploration and freedom of expression of love was allowed, celebrated, and widely accepted.  Contraception was encouraged and mass-produced to allow sexual relationships with minimal consequence. 

What's worse, is what we are like today.  We've all read articles and blogs about how our generation has slipped into a whirlwind of sexual activity, sipping the juices of temptation and tasting the sweet bitterness of raw human passion.  Yet, we don't seem to appreciate what's in front of us.  Sex is no longer an empowering moment in the relationship in which two people discover every curve, every scar, every beauty mark on the bodies of their partner.  In fact we rely so much on videos to guide us in our sexual endeavors, we lose sight on the fact that every scar tells a story, and it's in the moments of cuddling after where these stories can be revealed, making not only the moment of passion amazing, but making the moments after just as memorable. 

Friendly Faces, Strange Places

I can't forget this dream, and it happened what may be now a couple of months.  I met this guy, and it seemed to me that I was back on campus, but they had built a museum on my campus, and that was the building I was in.  I'm not sure if I had enrolled in grad school or what, but apparently I had chosen to dorm, and my roommate introduced me to this guy. 

He was a combination of my type, but not my type.  I normally go for guys with lighter hair and eyes, but he had dark hair and eyes.  His face glowed in the brightly lit building, and we were chasing one another around these golden roman columns.  At one point, I completely lost him and came across his best friend, who I believed was named Nick.  Unfortunately for me, I never got his name, but to his friend I said, where's my boyfriend? You would know, since he's your best friend.

I think I was more captivated by his personality, and how he just seemed to belong to the world we were in.  He was smart, he was fun, and he held my interest, and it's quite possible I loved him, as it seemed that we just had a deep and emotional connection. Yet the more I think of him or try to remember, the less I can see what he looks like, and the less I know who he really is.  I know I have never met him before, and he's a stranger to me in my waking life, but he will always be a friendly face, in a strange and unfamiliar place.

Life in Moments

To start, I want to explain the title of the blog.  In it's original form, it's "One Day, One Room", and it is the title of an episode of House.  In this particular episode, there was a girl, who after a trying experience in her life, seeks the trust and comfort of Dr. House.  Her view on life is simple: life is like a room, the moment is measured by who you are stuck with in that room, at that moment. 

Have you ever been stuck in a moment with a person you'd rather not be with? Do you close the door to that memory? Do you barricade it, never to be opened again?  I have, but that's beside the point.

It took me a long time to finally create a blog with what I feel is an acceptable title.  This blog is going to have a lot of things in it...it will provide advise, it will provide my view on trending topics, on topics I find interesting, inspiring or memorable.  Either way, I hope you find it enjoyable.