Guys have this idea of a perfect woman, the ideal girlfriend, the wifey type. She's got a body that turns you on the moment she's in your bed, she's got a smile that can light up a room, and it's super contagious. She's got eyes that can seduce you almost as quickly as they can melt your heart when she looks at you in that adoring way.
But let's add to that, shall we. You start dating this wonderful girl, and you discover that she's not trying to trap you! She just wants to see what you're about. That's why they call it dating right? She just wants to hang out with you, she likes that you text, but she's just as fine if you don't. She doesn't hit you up four to five times a day asking "Where are you? or "What are you doing?". She has a 3 text rule, if you don't respond after three times throughout the DAY, not the hour, then she doesn't bother, and she leaves you alone for the rest of it. You do you buddy, cz she's gonna do her. That's just the way it works.
Deep down though, she likes you. Something about you has got her attention. She enjoys the time you spend together and yeah, she's told a couple of her closest friends about you. She's not calling you her boo, her man, or her boyfriend, she's just letting it be known that she's digging you, and you're her type.
This girl, my goodness, this girl, she gives you your space. She lets you live your life the way you should, spending time with the boys, giving you the week to recover from being overworked, overworked-out, and on top of that, sick. She even went so far as to offer to bring you some soup or give you pointers on a quick remedy, and when you said you're fine, she let you be fine, or realistically, suffer through it the way you stubborn boys do.
Here's the best part. Throughout all this, she hasn't once pushed a relationship on you. In the amount of time that you two have spent, wherever you wanted her to spend it, and as many times as you've asked more from her than what you have of what she wanted, she's been willing to do it all. On top of that, she has yet to even mention what it is she wants from you. What she wants is simple, she wants an official date. A night where you take her out to eat, where you sit at any restaurant, and talk over some drinks and a meal for a couple of hours with no alterior motives or intentions. She wants to know, that throughout this process, you like her enough, respect her enough, to choose to be with only her, because chances are, that out of respect for herself, she's choosing to only see you.
Let's face it, this girl is definitely not the girl to date around, mess around, or put herself out there in that way. Sure she may go to a bar with her girlfriends, but when you joke and say "So, you ladies on the prowl tonight?", she's offended, because no, she's not, nor does she need to be. Unless, you're giving her a reason to, or you're basically telling her, she should be looking for something more than what she hopes she has. Let this girl know, does she have you, or not? Because while you were sitting there contemplating how even though she may be "amazing" and "the bestest <3" and all these other little things, you may not want to commit, there's someone who knows the same things, and is waiting for her to arrive on their doorstep, instead of continually ending up on yours.
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