Ok, so you're at the point in your life when you want to explore all your options. It's just not enough going out to the bars and trying to meet people. I mean, if you think about it, bar nights are just as complicated nowadays with each night being themed and what not. Seriously, what kind of people do you think you're going to meet on Ladies' Night? Chances are if you're a female, the only guy you're meeting is the slick dude who thinks that just because you got some free drinks, he's taking you home tonight. Think again buddy. Country night, you get to witness some old fashioned people, and while a lot of them may be some quality men, who like to cater to the southern lifestyle of treating a lady right, most of them usually have someone that they're with. Then you have the nights for the older crowd, say your single late twentysomethings and early thirtysomethings, and you have the nights for the younger crowd. Your "I'm 19 so I can get in, but can't drink" or the "omg I'm 21 so I can drink" up to your "I'm a recent college grad but I still want to party".
Back to the online dating. Now there are several sites that are worthy of exploring but some of them you have to pay for, and when you're not exactly guaranteed results, or you're still unsure, and you don't want to pay for a service that may turn up to be something that you decided against, it becomes a difficult decision to make. So just a tip to all you potential site seekers, plenty of fish and okcupid are two sites that are free, just be aware that because anyone can message you, you may get some creepers, and some guys who really don't pay attention to what you're looking for.
Let's fast forward now. You meet this great guy, whether it was at a bar, or through one of these dating sites and you have a great first date. You seem to hit it off really well, so you go on a second date. Then, a third. At this point, you guys are really starting to like each other, you have a ton in common and you decide you want to pursue this. I present to you, the first question in the dating game. After how many dates, do you narrow the field down from maybe a couple of prospects to dating only one guy? It's a matter of the heart people. If you feel like one guy is offering you up everything you're looking for, then that should be the person you dedicate your time to.
You've taken that leap now, and you've begun to date this one person, but you're taking things slow because you don't want to rush into anything if you're not sure. You want this guy to be the one that you commit to, but you want to keep your options open, as you're not really sure what his intentions are, or even if he's looking for the same thing. In the event that he is though, a new question arises: "when is it time to take down the profile?"
Do you take it down after maybe a month of dating? Two months? When it becomes an official "relationship"? What if you guys have dated, you act like a couple, but he still hasn't made you his girlfriend, do you keep it because technically you're still single? If that's the case, should he keep it also?
Again, it's matters of the heart. I saw one of my friend's statuses and it said, single and in a relationship are just terms that we use, but they really don't mean anything. Only your heart can decide whether you are dedicated to someone, or whether you need to find someone who can really make your heart happy. Because when your heart has chosen, it will choose only one person, because that person is the one who truly makes you happy. That person has all the qualities that you are seeking and the qualities that with just a few simple words, can light up your day and plaster a smile on your face. That's dedication, that's committment, and that's when you go past dating, and you can finally take down that profile.
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