Because We Women Think We Can

Source: http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/why-bad-boys-164100436.html

After reading this article on Yahoo! Shine, I had to write about this topic. It's one of our biggest mistakes as women, and hey before you ladies hate me for giving up one of our biggest "secrets", let me just clarify, it's no secret.

There's two things that we do, and most of the times, we're aware of it, we just can't control our actions or explain why it is we try to do it. The first thing we do is we like bad boys. And while it seems like something so menial and so ridiculous, it sort of leads into the next thing, but we'll get to that in a moment. According to the article, studies show that women tend to drift towards the image of being with a bad boy or a sexy mate during days of high fertility and ovulation. When we are in our phases of lower fertility, or regular days, we look for more sensible and reliable men to pursue as mates instead. Apparently the psychology behind it is that the sexier male is a more suitable choice for fatherhood, and we seem to think that it's a good idea to pursue a relationship with said guy.

This leads me to my next point, it doesn't matter what time of the day, month, or year it is, most women believe that we are capable of changing a man. This to me, is by far, the funniest concept to date. Can this one be blamed on hormones? I can't be too sure, chances are there's a study about it somewhere being done. Let's take the bad boy for instance. Sure, our hormornal increase during the week of high ovulation allows us to believe that the bad boy is a suitable mate. However, when we come to realize that we are now in a relationship with a man who does not want to be tamed, we make it our mission to try and tame him into the man we thought or think he could be.

Change is a natural occurrence. Most people throughout their lives adjust to the environment in which they live in. In extreme situations, people are often forced to change immediately to accommodate for the new situation into which they have been thrust into. This often leads to a change of habit, lifestyle, or even sometimes a personality makeover. Some people choose not to change at all, because they feel that it's not necessary.

Most women are aware that change is possible. We abuse this knowledge and think that we can apply it and use it to our advantage. Therefore we take an unsuitable mate, and we try and turn him into our image of what our ideal guy is, or at least the guy we'd be willing to settle down with. You may get lucky, and it may even work at first, or if you end up with a man who is used to adaptation and is used to accommodating to other people's needs rather than his own. Most men though, do not fit that description. Why? Because men like simple, and they utilize the simplest functions in order to get through day to day tasks. And please, guys who read this, DO NOT take it as me calling you simple (aka stupid). I'm complimenting you on the fact that you do not thrive on complicated routines and mundane tasks. You again, live on the basic and essential functions that propel you through the day, which is why often times, you end up under a lot less stress than a female does.

Basically, what it comes down to is, we're just like men in that we think with our hormones rather than reason. The difference is, our hormones make us emotional and sometimes irrational messes, whereas, male hormones just keep you from thinking...period.