I'm referring to the guys on this one. I'm finding lately, that we're inclined to think that we as females are the complicated ones, but, surprisingly, men are becoming more and more vulnerable and it's scaring the hell out of them.
Vulnerability is not necessarily a bad thing boys. We as females like to see that you guys care about things other than yourself and superficial vanity (yep broke out the big words). I don't underestimate you fellas in the least bit. You catch when you reveal any type of emotion towards us quicker than a frog can catch a fly. It's what you do that moment after that annoys us, you act like it never happened. Let's face it, we co-exist for a reason. Men need women, and women need men (generally speaking of course). Whether you're in a relationship or not, at some point, we need each other, and it's how we react in that moment that defines the potential success of the relationship, or the potential failure.
One of the hardest moments to overcome is when one person gets sick, and you have to pretty much make a choice: do I risk getting my partner sick as well, just to be able to see them? Or do I just take the day to get some much needed rest and fight this on my own? Here's the thing though fellas: we women know how to take care of ourselves because it's that nurturing instinct that we were born with. We are aware of what it takes to ensure that we recover as fast as possible, and though we may not need to rely on you, we like to know that if we do need anything you'll be there for us. We don't always get that response though. In fact, sometimes all we get is a "Well, feel better, sucks that you're sick". Thank you, yes, I am fully aware that being sick sucks, and furthermore, I'm fully aware of why YOU think it sucks.
When it comes to you guys though, the world is turned upside down because you're stuck in bed with a 48 hour virus that basically kicked your ass and prevented you from doing all the things you "need" to do as a man. Oh NO! You missed a 3 hour gym sesh, you missed a day of boxing, or whatever it is you do. You're stuck at work because if you miss a day, you lose money, and that's not an option, so you're whining about how you want to go home and all you want is to get better.
Let me help you with that. No, seriously, let me. Two things: first, when you complain to us about all these things, we want to hit you, because again, we understand that being sick really does suck. What angers us, is how your priorities are so out of whack. You can't work a 8 hour day and do a four hour gym session and expect your body to be able to fight whatever bug has invaded your immune system. In fact, you compromise it further, and that 48hr bug will turn into a week one. Congratulations genius, you just made it worse. Second, you already know that we are going to offer in some way to comfort you in your crybaby form. Whether it's bringing you soup, or just stopping by to make sure you're not dying. We'll text you to ask you how you're feeling, knowing that most likely, you're not going to answer, but we do it because we care. So when you tell us no, we fully understand and we back away, especially if this is the first time you're sick in the time we've been together. A pattern of trust needs to develop, we get that. Again, what amazes is us is not the fact that you refuse to accept our help, we admire that you want to troop it out, but it's that you refuse to acknowledge that deep down inside, you need it.
This day and age, memes and facebook pages will have us believe that catching feelings is like catching a disease, that it's a terrible thing. It's not...it's what makes us human, it's what will bring us closer to finding a full life.
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