Real Men (dedicated)

Ok, so I've been seeing these posts and pictures everywhere, and I'm honestly so tired of it, that I need to make something clear.

A man is NOT defined by how often he texts his girl, or how often he calls her. There was a time when there were no cell phones and a man had to walk his ass to a girl's house, throw rocks at a window just to get her attention, or call the house phone and ask her mom if he could speak with her. Texting is a modern day privilege that most of us have forgotten we once did without. Don't define your fucking boyfriend by the number of texts he sends. Cut that shit out, get real, a text is a text, and most times, we take them out of context anyway.

A man is NOT defined by how many times he says he misses you. Guys are fucking guys, they very rarely show emotion. Most girls are lucky to have a guy who isn't AFRAID to utter those words, let alone get a guy to say "I love you". Ask around, tell your friends be honest, and I bet you half your friends are dating a guy that can't even say "I care", "I miss you" or "I LIKE YOU".

A man is NOT defined by how he lays it down in the bedroom. That's your business, nobody else's. He doesn't need to pull your hair, he doesn't need to play rough. A good man in the bedroom caters to what his girl NEEDS. He knows her body, he knows her mind, he knows her soul. If she can feel at the end of her encounter that there's nothing better than the connection that just resulted from the intimate moment they just shared, then guess what ladies, you got yourself a "Real Man".

And lastly, to all you selfish, materialistic type chicks...your MAN is not defined by how much money he spends on you, the "just because" gifts he gets you, the things he does for your birthday, that concert he took you to, that Coach bag he bought you, etc. How much would you bet if you asked him why he did it, that "just because" turns into "because that's what she expects". Good job, you became an obligation.

A "REAL Man" is defined by the way he treats his girl at all times. The way he treats her when they're alone, the way he treats her in front of his friends, family, her friends, her family. A man is defined by the love he gives to her. Any guy can SAY they love you, but how many of them will show it? A man who loves you knows that your happiness is what matters most, that the smile on your face lights up HIS world. He doesn't need to say it 10 times a day, because if he was a REAL man, you'd know that no matter what happens, he loves you more than anyone else. A real man will not just introduce you to his mom, but make you feel like you're a part of his family, that his mom is your mom, and that she loves you as much as he does. A real man knows that the real treasure, is the beautiful woman that he is with, and that no amount of jewelry can make her more valuable, because she already was. A real man knows that no amount of time can come between the relationship. He's not afraid to take that two week business trip because he knows that when he returns, you won't love him any less, in fact if you were smart, you'd love him more. That business trip was so that he could keep his job to support YOU.

To all those Real men out there, the ones not defined by today's standards, keep doing what you do, because one day, we woman will wise up when we realize that we were searching for the wrong things. Some of us may take a little longer, but hey us girls are willing to wait for guys too. To the women who understand what I'm saying, and know a real man, or have a real man, thank God for him tonight, because some of us are still wishing for one.

PICK UP LINES!!!!

Owwwww!!!! This one is thanks to my wonderful cousin! And to all the losers out there who actually try this.

Ok so I've seen this everywhere. From dating sites, to status updates, to even experiencing it in a bar that I'm at. They're pick-up lines, attention grabbers, corny little sentences that we say to start a conversation of the person that we're attracted to.

Do these really work though? In some cases, oddly enough they do, because some of you guys actually put effort into coming up with something creative. And for that, you guys definitely earn your brownie points. And if you can keep the conversation going after you get the initial eye roll, then you just might be worth the time over a drink or two.

In this one, I'm going to go over some of my favorites and some of my least favorites, and then I'll tell you why they don't work, will never work, and you shouldn't even TRY them. Let's start with my least favorites, because honestly, that's more important. These little liners will get you almost an immediate dismissal. And then I'll tell you how you guys continue to mess up rather than redeeming yourself. Boy, I feel like this is something out of an episode of Guy Code, but here it goes.

First one, is "What's up ma" or "What's good". It's as dumb as saying "How You Doin'" the Joey Tribbiani line. Here's why it almost always fails...it's not freakin cute. No woman wants to be called ma, and we don't want to be greeted with what's good. Make us feel like you're actually making an effort. You want our attention you have to earn it. Oh and while most people will say flattery will get you far, it's a yes and no. Flattery will get you further in your pursuits, but do NOT sit there and say "Hey princess" or queen...we know we're not royalty, and we damn well know that you are not basing that on our personality.

Second one...the phone number request. Ok, some of you try to pull this one off at the start. You think that you're being bold or brave by not only seeking our attention but asking us for our numbers. Guess what...that works even less. Just so you know "Can I get your number or what" is not attractive...that's not how you ask for it. In fact, it makes us want to reject you instantly.

Other lame lines: "Can I get a second", "Can I holla at you for a min" "Heaven must be missing an angel..." all that, doesn't work at all.

Let's put it this way. Simple flattery works best. There's nothing better than a guy who comes up to us and says "Hey I couldn't help but notice you from the other side of the bar...Hi, my name is.." That's sweet. It means that out of all the people, you not only saw me but you took the time to approach us. And don't be so quick to buy us a drink, especially if our cup is still half full. Pay attention to the smaller details, and fellas I know it's hard to do but sometimes, you just have to in order to get our attention. Surprise us, let us know you are really taking the time to know what's going on in your surroundings.

Lastly, if you're going to compliment us, petnames, nicknames, corny comparisons just won't do it. Some girls are told how hot they are more times than they can count. And as much as they want to hear "you're beautiful" that doesn't cut it anymore either. We know that that is the only word you can think of that will romanticize "hot". Be smart. Pick out a feature of ours you like best and compliment that. Saying "you have a great smile" is better than "you're beautiful".

Learn from this one!!!!!! Whether you are looking for a relationship or not, this blog is super informative. One of these pointers is BOUND to help you!